Stop Wasting Time Waiting for the Perfect Answer
The No. 1 Secret to Feeling More Joyful
Being a "Good Girl" is a Gift
It is not a crime to be a good girl.
In fact, it’s a gift.
You love.
You give.
You care.
You take on.
You keep going.
You believe.
You hope.
You support.
You don’t give up.
You have an open heart, even when you get hurt.
You always choose love.
These are qualities not everyone has, and you should be proud of them.
4 Reasons You Don't Feel Worthy of the Life You Desire
4 Healthy Ways to Deal with Your Emotions
Emotions are real and it is healthy to feel them. Pushing your emotions away or avoiding your feelings will turn you either into a numb robot or put you on an emotional rollercoaster.
The secret: it is not your job to control them.
Especially in times like now, that don't seem to ever end and get better, many of us are struggling with the unexpected and daily changing situations worldwide - me included. So I've put together 3 tips that I use all the time help me navigate emotions in a healthy way.
5 Signs You're a People Pleaser
3 Simple Tricks to Stop Overthinking
I'm sure you are very familiar with those moments when you can't stop thinking... Your thoughts are spinning and you're going back and forth about something you should do or say, or not do and not say, or something you could have done better, and you absolutely cannot focus on anything else!
Why do we overthink?
Top 3 Tips to Feel Luminous in a Nervous and Anxious World
It happens so quickly these days (and often daily) that we get into fearful thoughts about the future, our health, and our loved ones with all the information that's floating around online and offline. And while there are so many moving parts in this that we cannot control at all, it is more important than ever that you control what is in your control: how you feel in your body.
See, a few years ago, I used to do vinyasa or hatha yoga daily at home, but my body doesn't crave that type of movement anymore. Right now, my body needs more sweaty workouts, more flowy movements, and deep relaxation practices - and that's OK!
How to Set Goals for a New Month in Fall
Happy September, beautiful! How do you bring in the beginning of a new month?
I love sitting down and thinking about what I want to do, achieve, work on, play with, and enjoy in the new month. I just spent time reflecting with my bestie on goals until the end of the year, but let's stick to this month for now!
See, a few years ago, I used to do vinyasa or hatha yoga daily at home, but my body doesn't crave that type of movement anymore. Right now, my body needs more sweaty workouts, more flowy movements, and deep relaxation practices - and that's OK!
Loving Yourself (for real!) as a Perfectionist
Self-Love
...means showing up to the f*ing mat when all you want to do is eat chips and watch Netflix.
...means doing the damn heart opening meditation when you just want to close your heart and crawl up in bed and cry.
...means writing in your freaking journal that you just want to throw out the window.
What's the difference between self-care and self-love?
Self-care on the good says is just kind pampering. Face masks, bubble baths, lighting a candle, reading a book... It feels nice and you really love it. You practice something regularly, you strengthen a muscle, so that when things don’t always go right, you know you have the strength to get through it. You know you can rely on yourself.
Self-love is practicing self-care when you really don't want to
Practicing self-care on the hard days is true self-love. You do it when you really don't want to. You do it when you just want to throw in the towel and walk away. You do it when all you want to do is hide under the covers and cry and sleep. Showing up with kindness, compassion, and love for yourself in these moments, you have figured out a bit part of what I call "the Glow Life".
It may require a bit of a loving kick in the butt from your higher self sometimes, and you may really want to do the opposite of it, but when you have reached the point where, in your darkest moments, you take care of yourself in a loving way, that's what true self-love is.
Love yourself enough to show up for yourself when you need yourself the most.
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3 Tips for High Achieving Perfectionists Who Are Ready to Remove Overwhelm and Work Less
...WITHOUT COMPROMISING RESULTS AND BURNING YOURSELF OUT
I created a free self-care guide if you’re someone who always puts everyone else - especially work! - first and needs some tips for perfectionists to slow down again! Click the button below to download your self-care guide for free:
How to Set Better Boundaries as a People Pleaser (Includes Journaling Exercise!)
Yes, you can definitely set boundaries while improving your relationships as well as having more time left for yourself. Taking care of your own needs is your duty. When you're filled up, you can serve others so much better. When you're filled up, you can show up for your loved ones with 100% of your energy, love, and time. Whereas when you're already burned out, your plate is overflowing, and you're running at 7% of your own batteries, you can only show up for them from that place.
16 Empowering Reminders to Manifest Your Glow Life
Your Innate Ability to Create a Magical Life
I have a very special client, Sophie. Sophie is 7, and we meet once a week to work on mindfulness, gratitude, and self-confidence. The other day, as we were playing with my Tibetan singing bowl, she found my purple, glittery magic wand from my childhood. She invented this game where we had to close our eyes and I would say what I wished for in my life. Then she would say "abracadabra simsalabim" and play the singing bowl. Then it was her turn. She always said I had MORE wishes I could make, which, of course, I loved!
2 Reasons Why Information Doesn't Heal Perfectionism
So often, women come to me, we have a great conversation, and they are ready to change something in their lives (or at least that's what they say!). A few days later, they come back saying that they'll first try to implement what they already know. However, chances are very high that not much (if anything) will change for them in the following weeks and months, and here are two reasons why:
Alarms on Sundays: Do or Don't?
Happy Sunday, beautiful! Let me guess: you set an alarm to wakeup this morning, so you wouldn't waste your time sleeping and resting - because you have so much to do, finish, and accomplish today. And maybe, today was an exception and you didn't set an alarm :) But I've found that 90% of my perfectionist clients wakeup with an alarm on Sundays (and of course Saturdays, too!), because there's just so much to do.
How to Get a Promotion at Work
The results my clients have been getting in the past few months blow my mind! Here are some related to their high-demanding careers: Promotions at work, pay raise at work, invite to join diversity & inclusion team, courage to speak up at work and ask for what they want, express their concerns and opinions at work without fear (and many other life-related things, such as candle-light dinners and date nights with their partner, better sleep, dancing and playing the piano etc.!)
What the 5 People You Spend the Most Time with Say about You
What kind of conversations do you want to have in 2021? Talk about why others are wearing their masks wrong, have weird haircuts or looks, or aren't doing what they "should", e.g. eat healthier or workout? Talk about why the government wasn't reacting faster in the covid crisis or why borders are still not open? Or that discussion that happened on TV the other day that you don't agree with?
Do This Before You Throw Your New Year's Intentions Over Board
While I’m sitting at the pool in the middle of the jungle in Bali, I had to think of something that I shared with my clients in our workshop last month:
Did you know that 92% of New Year's goals fail by January 15th?
That was just last week. This means that most people have already thrown their New Year’s intentions over board. If that’s you, here’s how to readjust your goals to make sure you can create your dreamy glow life this year:
1 - Make Your New Year’s Goals Exciting
Go over your goals and make sure you find them EXCITING! Don’t work on things you feel like you “have to”, because others tell you to, or you force yourself, because you want to please others or receive validation from someone.
Here’s an example: if you want to feel better in your body, look leaner, and have more energy, do it, because YOU want this, not because some beauty standard says you should weigh x kg/lb with your height, or because you want your partner to compliment you.
2 - Take Small Steps Towards Your Goals
Make the action steps so small you can actually achieve them consistently, get first results, and celebrate the small successes.
Here’s an example: If you want to get into a habit of moving your body, don’t go from not moving at all to expecting yourself to work out 5 times a week. Start with simple steps like booking a class a week, or make it a commitment to move your body for 20mins a day including walks.
3 - Set Your Goals Right With S.M.A.R.T Goals
When we set goals, it’s not enough to just say something like “I want to be healthier”. I’ve been using the S.M.A.R.T. goals method for years for myself and with my clients to set goals that are exciting, realistic, and get us into actually taking action. The letters S.M.A.R.T. stand for the following criteria:
S: specific
M: measurable
A: attainable
R: relevant
T: timely
Here’s an example: “just working out more” isn’t a SMART goal. Make it specific. Make sure you can measure it, so you actually know when you can tick it off, make it attainable, choose a relevant goal, and set a time frame to it.
Something that’s important for you to know, beautiful, is that you can always adjust your goals. You can always make them bigger. You can always expect more of yourself. But first, we want to make sure that you set yourself up to win. You want to be on your own team, have your back, and see yourself make progress.
What if this year became the healthiest year of your life yet? Let it sink in. It is 100% possible, and I would love to support you on your journey. You so deserve to live your best life.
Head over to the Work With Me page to find out how we can work together this year.
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