#131 Setting Boundaries to Reduce Overwhelm with Catherine Lewis (On-Air Coaching) — Martina Fink

Yes, of course I will help you!

Yes, of course I can do this for you!

Yes, of course I can skip my workout and meditation today!

When you always say yes to everyone and everything, you end up feeling depleted with neither energy nor time for yourself. And you start feeling overwhelmed with all the life responsibilities you've taken on.

Time to reestablish some clear boundaries with yourself around when it's time for YOU to recharge and also stick to these boundaries yourself.

Catherine Lewis is on this episode for an on-air coaching session, where we will identify what the root cause of her overwhelm is, and what she can do to step out of it and take better care of herself.

Over the years, Cath has struggled with weight, PCOS and hormonal issues, high expectations of herself since she was a teenager, and never having time for herself, because she's either working, there for her husband, her dog, friends, and family, which has hugely impacted her mental health and stress levels.

IN TODAY’S EPISODE, I’M COACHING CATHERINE THROUGH:

How to lower the high expectation you have of yourself that make you feel fuzzy in your head
What to prepare and not get overwhelmed when you have to go back to work after a long time in isolation
What happens when you're too flexible and too giving all the time (hint: not good!)
A powerful heart/emotion exercise to figure out why she's stuck with her self-care
How to prioritize yourself when you want to be the best in everything
How to set better boundaries with herself
The no. 1 (+ super simple!) thing Catherine needs to do now to decrease the overwhelm of life responsibilities

And so much more!

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TODAY’S EPISODE TRANSCRIBED:

Martina Fink 0:00

This is episode number 131 with Catherine Lewis. Welcome to the Glow Life podcast. The one and only place for ambitious, high achieving and perfectionist women like you who want to leave, overwhelm behind. Turn self doubt into self confidence. And learn to trust yourself again, so that you can work less fully love and accept yourself and live a fulfilled and glowing life. Every week, I'll be giving you tips and inspiration on how to think less, feel more slow down can use your body and your daily habits to help you step up, level up and glow up in all areas of your life. This is not just about the big shifts, you can glow just a little more every single day.

Welcome back to the Glow Life podcast, season number two with the second episode of season two, so grateful to have you here. And today we have a special guest on the podcast. Catherine Lewis is someone who has been following me for just a couple of months. And she joined one of my 2021 Visions workshop earlier this year, we haven't really worked together outside of that. And she is here today for an on air coaching session, which means going to dive into her struggles and figure out what she can do to feel better and release some of the perfectionism and overwhelm and stress that she's experiencing on a daily basis. Before we dive in, I wanted to talk to you about stress and overwhelm. And the things that are making our lives so difficult. The thing is that we have a choice, I was recently talking to one of my clients and she said, "You know Martina, after taking your program, nothing has really changed in the outside. It's only the approach that I have to my work and to my schedule and to my work life balance that has changed." And that's really the key here. Releasing perfectionism is not about quitting your job and traveling the world and selling all your belongings it can be but really what it is, is you establishing a healthier relationship with yourself, with your habits with your time and your schedule, with how you handle your emotions, how you effectively manage stress, and also find ways to not even get into situations that stress you eliminate the stress, right. And so when it comes to effectively managing stress and quitting overwhelm, this is inner work. This is what you need to do on yourself doesn't mean that your outside circumstances need to change they can but they don't have to. And you can still create a lasting transformation for yourself. Now we are doing a free training in my community that is starting on Monday, April 5, where you will learn how to effectively manage stress, how to handle and quit your overwhelm and create a healthy work life balance without quitting your job without compromising your results at work. And without letting anyone down along the way. The link to sign up for free is in the show notes. And you know as someone who probably is experiencing all the things I am pretty sure you're not alone. I loved complaining about the stress that I was experiencing in the past to my friends who were also experiencing stress. So if you know anyone who needs this training as well and who could join you live on these three days, please invite them with you and hold each other accountable for showing up for the training to share the link with them. It is in the show notes and I would love to see you there. Now let's bring on Catherine Lewis. She has struggled with her weight with PCOS and hormonal issues over the years and she has extremely high expectations of herself since she was a teenager and never really has time for herself because she's either working there for her husband, for her friends and family which has hugely impacted her mental health and her stress levels. In today's on air coaching episode I'm coaching Catherine through how to lower the expectations you have of yourself that make you feel fuzzy in your head what to prepare and not to get overwhelmed when you have to go back to work after a long time in isolation and working from home. What happens when you're too flexible and too giving all the time. Hint it's not good for you. A powerful heart emotion exercise that I'm taking her through to figure out why she's stuck with herself care how to prioritize yourself when you want to be the best in everything, how to set better boundaries with yourself, and the number one and super simple thing Catherine needs to do now to decrease the overwhelm of life responsibilities, and so much more. And you can find everything we talked about today in the show notes at martinafink.com/podcast/131. Welcome, Catherine. I'm so grateful and happy to have you on the podcast today.

Catherine Lewis 5:35

Me too. And forward to have a packed in there. Yeah, just getting to know me and you.

Martina Fink 5:42

So this is an on air coaching session. So basically, we're going to I'm going to guide you through some of your blocks and your challenges, to see what is standing in the way of you living your very own glow life. And where is also perfectionism and procrastination, high expectations? Where are these things standing in your way? So thank you for coming on and for sharing bits and pieces about your life with us. So I would love to know from you first, what is your biggest challenge at the moment when it comes to perfectionism and you not being able to live the best life that you could.

Catherine Lewis 6:21

Try and be the best at everything. I like to be like the top of the game on everything I do. But I sometimes find the right one locked in one goal.

Martina Fink 6:31

So you find you set high expectations of yourself.

Catherine Lewis 6:36

Yes, yeah. So like anything I do have really high expectations. I've got to be the top of the game in that in that field or session and during that time as well.

Martina Fink 6:47

Interesting. You want to be the best in everything. Does that relate to work? Does that to relate to your relationships, your health, or or all of it?

Catherine Lewis 6:58

All of it. But the place that I let down most is doing things for myself.

Martina Fink 7:02

Yes.

Catherine Lewis 7:03

I just I seem to procrastinate. Look around, just go around in circles. And avoid the thing that I need to do that I know this best for me.

Martina Fink 7:13

Interesting. So would you say that? What else? What is getting in the way? Like, why don't you have time for you? What are you spending your time on?

Catherine Lewis 7:19

Work. Learning new skills. Learning new courses , helping my husband, everything apart from me. Yeah, even the dog down to the dog. He goes first. Friends, friends are first families first. Yeah, just everybody. And I've noticed that in the last few years. It's just, I need to do more for me. And I've recently become a fully qualified reflexologist. In that path, I'm getting to know more than more about what I want to know I want to do.

Martina Fink 7:55

Interesting, interesting. Okay, so I feel like there are two things. One is the high expectations you have of yourself always wanting to be the best in everything. And then the other thing is that you're really people pleasing and putting everything else first including your dog. Because I mean, if you don't take care of your dog, it's going to like pee in your house, it's going to bite you because it doesn't get food right there is like instant constant consequences if you don't take care of that. But if you don't take care of yourself, it's not that drastic, usually. Right?

Catherine Lewis 8:28

Yeah. until it gets to the point when it is yes. Mental health is, you know, a big thing that just gets on top of that person and gets consumed by everything. And it just becomes a big fog. Yeah.

Martina Fink 8:42

And how would you say it sounds like you're still in this space, right? Where you're trying to figure out how can I take better care of myself? And how can I make more time for me? So how does it feel to be in this space, where you're at right now?

Catherine Lewis 8:57

jittery, walk slowly. But I know if anything is going to work, it's going to take time and weird feelings to come through for it to feel right in the end. So I've learned, like, if you're just trying things, even if they don't work, then you can always say I that's not for me. I'll try the next thing. That's my path. At the moment. I'm trying everything.

Martina Fink 9:18

What have you tried so far?

Catherine Lewis 9:20

I do a lot of meditation I wish I never used to do and I do I am qualified everyone and read it. So I'm trying to do that more myself. But then I just find other things that get in the way. So that's a goal of mine to do is just to do that more journaling. I'm trying my best to do it. But sometimes I feel like I just can't put our pen to paper. And like I'm really really bad at setting goals myself, like really bad and like detecting the ball on his hand doesn't actually do when the goal.

Martina Fink 9:53

Interesting, okay. There's a lot of things. It sounds like you're really willing to try but nothing is really sticking To the point where you feel comfortable about it, and it's become your routine, just how, you know, you brush your teeth every day and you take showers regularly, it's not really sticking. So I would like to go back a little to the beginning of our conversation where you shared that you want to be the best in everything, which I completely resonate with. I didn't have so much of a competitive thing with others. I just had that with myself. Is it the same for you?

Catherine Lewis 10:29

Yeah, like it doesn't bother me about to like, obviously, the teams have gone to that my satisfy me to do 20 about more.

Martina Fink 10:36

Right? You're really just want to be the best of yourself, like you want to bring 150% to the table. Why do you think you do that?

Catherine Lewis 10:46

Probably all started when I was a teenager, to be honest, telomeres aren't TV ads were everywhere. So I was on for a month at a time at that age. And then I'd be off for a few months. So hormone hormonal issues constantly. And eventually, then when I was 24, finding out I had polycystic ovaries. And, and I've always been the healthy one of everyone I know. And I do everything in my power to look after myself. And as of September last year, I know pretty much Reagan as well. So plant based life, which is not for everyone. But for me it my body seems to like it

Martina Fink 11:28

Beautiful.

Catherine Lewis 11:30

And recently about specialist appointments regarding the waist and stuff as well, because I can't physically do anymore. So I've just been told that I pre diabetic, so I was like, Well, what do you suppose I do, then you can seem to help. So this is I found out throughout my life, I've got to do everything myself become the best in that field, whether it's making the nicest, I don't know, vegan pasta meal, or our personal and gluten free, my husband's about celiac. So that's another thing as well. So I'm always the one that's learning. So I've just found if I learn, I become good, but I just get a bit confused as I can just leave it as one thing. Just bear with me that one thing for a moment, I just have to do the next thing then. So that's where I think it comes from.

Martina Fink 12:22

Yeah, so really all about not feeling great in your body and having all these issues where you felt out of control and you trying to learn almost got you to a place where you are feeling in control again, would that resonate?

Catherine Lewis 12:36

Yeah, and it's just when I am in control, which I was probably for the pandemic, but new things came came to the surface that and rich knocked me off balance again. So learning to be on my own, which I'm not used to. I'm a social person. I'm an extrovert. And I've just had this massive introvert which doesn't agree with me. Yeah, so like this whole year have been mapped NASA just that's what's making me learn more about me, because I'm with me all the time. That's what I think I need to learn on next is learning to live with myself, learning what my body needs listening to it, we've all got this gut feeling, but we never go in it so

Martina Fink 13:17

interesting. And you're certainly not the only one going through these challenges at the moment. You know, in the past year of isolation, whether you're an introvert or an extrovert, I'm an introvert and I love being by myself, but it was still challenging, because we are not supposed to have any contact relief, or as little as possible. And that is challenging for for any human being because we're supposed to be we're social beings, right? So it's very challenging. And certainly when you're on your own need to figure out who am I really and then all this stuff comes up. And you know, like you said, being with yourself is something that we don't really learn especially in today's day and age with like social media, like every single moment, we are free and we're not doing anything, we take the phone and scroll or go on Netflix or Instagram and Facebook and Twitter and all these things right to distract ourselves. So we don't even know what it's truly like to be by yourself. So now that you have more, let's say quote unquote, time to be by yourself in this past year. Why do you think when you try a new self care practice, such as meditation or journaling or doing the Reiki on yourself all these things? Why do you think it's not sticking?

Catherine Lewis 14:32

Really like I know my head first fancy bus. Every time I do it, there's a mental block or like a fog hanging around. And still, obviously I've got a husband I'm not totally on my own. I see him again, cuz he works currently stem, but he's quite. He is a total introvert. I'm pretty negative, selfish human being but I'm not in a nasty way. But I just need to find a way to like Block, everyone's energy is off and it's just such an empath it just doesn't happen. So for me that I can't find the answer for that, I don't know why I still don't know why I can't change why I can to try and buy things and stick in.

Martina Fink 15:15

Which one of these did you actually? Or do you actually enjoyed the most when you do the amas it Reiki meditation, journaling, setting goals for yourself Anything else?

Catherine Lewis 15:24

meditation probably is my favorite.

Martina Fink 15:27

Okay. So how do you feel when you meditate?

Catherine Lewis 15:31

When I'm actually in the zone, my heart gets away. I feel focused. If I get rid of somebody else, so then I'm totally creative. So she also said that with meditation, totally pans and not before bed, probably first thing in the morning, is probably the best time for me. And I just need to make it a habit that happens every day, at least 10 minutes by just less. Right. It's hard to get back into it. Yeah, I think recently, it's because I'm not in work with my full time job. And I've got a fear of going back to work. I'm thinking how am I going to live this like happy life? as well as go back to work?

Martina Fink 16:11

Yeah, that's so interesting. You're not even going back to work yet. But you already have this stories in your mind? Oh, no, I have to go back to work. How will I be able to live that lifestyle when I go back to work, but until then you're not even living it? Because you're so afraid and so consumed by your thoughts, right? And I totally understand that. And there's a lot of self sabotage happening here, which is absolutely normal. Because it's like that fear of what if I actually am happier? What if things actually are glowing everyday, you know, and I can combine meditation and Reiki and my job and my family and everything together? That's so scary, because you've never had this life before. So what happens is that you are, we have this comfort zone, which is where you're in right now. And then as soon as you want to create a new habit, and you have it is always outside of your comfort zone. So starting a meditation practice outside of your comfort zone, you start a few times, what happens then is that there's this rubber band that pulls you back into your comfort zone, because it's scary out there. Right? You don't know what your life will be like, if you actually meditate every day, you might be calm and focused every day. And how will that affect your relationship? How will that affect the quality of your work? And that's scary.

Catherine Lewis 17:30

Yeah, yeah, it is scary. Like if my husband said, I've noticed a massive change in it or like, Oh, thank God, or is that bad news? I don't know. Because it's totally different times to. So that's even that's a bit like, not wobbly. But like, it's just new. We've been together for 17 years, since we were 15. That's a long time for us both to change and develop. And he's always been the one to change and develop, might take a backseat until last year. So yeah, he's like, I don't know what this person said. This is actually me. This is what I've always wanted to be doing a follow me. I don't care if you don't like it, but it's tough man.

Martina Fink 18:12

Yeah, I love that. So what is so scary for you about feeling calm and focused every day?

Catherine Lewis 18:19

It's not the fear of the artist, the fear of keeping that?

Martina Fink 18:22

What will happen then if you keep in? It's just the fear of the unknown.

Catherine Lewis 18:26

I think it's just, I don't know why I always focus on the band, rather than the now. But I tend to do that quite a lot.

Martina Fink 18:36

Yeah. And it's normal, because you don't know. We all don't know what uncertainty will be like, right? Nobody knows what's happening tomorrow. And we're so used to that because it's everyday life, we don't do much. But when there's something new or something good happening, we were not used to how that would feel. So let's just let's paint a picture. Close your eyes for a moment. And imagine you're really doing this meditation, you get up in the morning, and you take some time for yourself, even if it's as little as 10 minutes. You meditate, you get comfortable, maybe you light a candle, you feel really good. You meditate for a couple minutes. And then as you come out of your meditation, you feel really calm and focused and clear in your head and really connected to your heart. You start your day. And now you imagine that you do this every day, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, every day of the week. You continue to do this for weeks and months. Is there any sensation in your physical body that's coming up for you right now?

Catherine Lewis 19:51

Emotional.

Martina Fink 20:00

If you had to pinpoint a specific place in body where you are feeling these emotions, where where is that?

Catherine Lewis 20:07

In my heart center.

Martina Fink 20:12

Can you describe it? Can you see a color or a texture or temperature or

Catherine Lewis 20:18

It's all reflected in between green, green and pink. And then slightly black. Posted being softer vibes and then like a pool, a puddle of water, like swimming, but it's not coming down. It's just forecaster

Martina Fink 20:37

What do you feel like is happening in your heart space right now?

Catherine Lewis 20:41

I just feels caged caged like

Martina Fink 20:48

What is it that would like to come out?

Catherine Lewis 20:51

accordion section, but it just never happens. To me to give you a more like a feeling and background. Just Just take me into like, just pulling me back in into this like, swirl?

Martina Fink 21:09

Does it feel like tumultuous like a heavy energy or is it more

Catherine Lewis 21:15

slow? Rather than being pushed down as being pushed down? Sort of wait? Yes. For my feet?

Martina Fink 21:24

And are you trying to resist it?

Catherine Lewis 21:27

Sometimes, right now? No. Sometimes it does. And sometimes it doesn't.

Martina Fink 21:34

What do you feel is pulling you down? The people around you?

Catherine Lewis 21:38

Just everyone just doesn't understand me.

Martina Fink 21:44

So do you feel like this? What is the thing that feels caged in your heart? We go back to that what is the thing that would love to come out but cannot

Catherine Lewis 21:54

just set just me living my life journey and having my boundaries because I've always been really flexible. My life too flexible. Can you to set clear boundaries for everyone around me like feeling down to even I know you don't like my own time sometimes. But even down to setting times for my own staff to be on my own talk to me. Because I know that's challenging for me. Sometimes I know it's worth it after I've done like a little workout. Yeah,

Martina Fink 22:30

can you place your hand on your heart for a moment. And just breathe into that space and the color of the heart chakra is pink and green. You can pick whichever color feels more peaceful and more loving to you and just kind of expand as like in your heart space with every breath. You can clear out the darkness clear out the fast pulsating energy and just calm that down. With a couple of breaths.

Your thoughts wander just come back to beautiful pink or green color in your heart space.

When you feel ready, you can slowly come back and open your eyes.

Catherine Lewis 23:54

Feels good. Yeah,

Martina Fink 23:56

I can see this smile on your face. So pretty

Catherine Lewis 23:59

are starting to get into it myself. I don't need to put these banners that like for myself, I need to set them on a healthy lifestyle. So customers and people are gonna have to understand.

Martina Fink 24:14

Yeah.

And it sounds like you know, you being feeling like you're in this cage is because you don't set the boundaries how big your cage is really right. So other people just cross your boundaries and step on you until you're actually so caged in your own heart. And that version of you that feels confident and glowing and healthy and full of energy wants to come out but it cannot because there's so many people kind of defining what your boundaries are because you don't have them. They're just, you know, flexible. So it sounds like more than anything. You need boundaries with yourself around like you said. Having a strict schedule that you stick to, and that is the boundary that you need to respect yourself, between work and family and everything and yourself. So if you had to set one boundary or schedule one thing in your calendar, what would that first step be?

Catherine Lewis 25:18

Well, I'm going back to work probably Monday to Wednesday. And starting at 10, and finishing at 6am, not doing 99.

Martina Fink 25:30

Can you kind of decide that yourself?

Catherine Lewis 25:33

Yeah, cuz I'm in college.

Martina Fink 25:35

Oh, awesome.

Catherine Lewis 25:36

But that makes it harder sometimes to set these boundaries.

Martina Fink 25:39

I know. Let me tell you, I know.

Catherine Lewis 25:42

I'm gonna have to do. I've been self employed since 2014. And I've been flexible, and everyone knows that. But that's my fear of making people unhappy. But I'm making myself unhappy by listening, topia.

Martina Fink 25:57

Yeah, and I resonate with this so much, because when I started my business in 2015, I was still doing much like makeup workshops and beauty workshops and stuff like that. And I was my calendar was open Monday to Sunday, like people could book workshops with me on Sunday, Saturday night, I didn't care like I would always make myself available. And guess what, the moment I decided, I'm only going to do certain days.

That's, you know, that's what people adjust it to. They're like, Okay, let me check. And we will always find a solution. So, it is so funny how we believe that when we set boundaries, others are going to reject us or not like us anymore. But actually, they're just going to take the information and find a way around, because they will still want to work with you, you know. So it's going to be so much easier than you think I promise if you just step up for yourself. So it feels like as we get off this call, what is your next thing you're going to do? Like? Do you have to schedule in some boundaries in your calendar? Like do you need to schedule in time for you? Do you need to schedule the time that you work? Do you need to block out certain days? Like what exactly is your number one step that you're going to take tonight?

Catherine Lewis 27:13

And so the next one's probably going to be like mealtime and bedtime, because my husband does shifts I try and get time with him. And but for me, eating late is not the happiest, nobody likes so I guess start eating before him. And then bedtime for me is 10 o'clock the desk?

Martina Fink 27:33

Are you going to bed later at the moment?

Catherine Lewis 27:36

Yes. plus one. Yeah, sometimes not sleeping at all attended to insomnia. So yeah, so definitely 10 o'clock. And then whenever my body allows me to recap, because going back to work, I hopefully I'll be starting around 10 or 11 o'clock. So I can get my exercise and my rocking, but I do daily in meditation.

Martina Fink 28:04

Sounds amazing. I really want you to set yourself up for success. Right. So sometimes we want to create new habits, such as Oh, I'm gonna meditate for 30 minutes every day and when you haven't meditated at all. So we want to make sure that the boundaries you set or actually realistic for you, so that you will in 90% of the cases you'll be able to follow through. So for my example, last year in isolation, I used to go to bed really, really late at like, one 130, because I'm really productive at night. And I decided I don't want to do that anymore. And I started setting an alarm at 1030 to like, go get ready for bed by 11, right. And going from like 130 to 1030 or 11 is too big of a difference for me to actually be able to do that. So what I decided is to go to bed before midnight, and that has worked really well now that I've back to 1130, I can go back to 11. And you want to make sure that it is actually realistic, the goal that you set for yourself because otherwise, you're just going to set yourself up for failure. You'll do it once or twice like this anyway. And you'll go back to 130 or what I feel like shooting for 10pm is a realistic goal for you.

Catherine Lewis 29:22

Not straightaway nor in probably be more like, because it's child robot one. So probably more like less than 30 to start off with 11 or 1130. And that's

Martina Fink 29:34

good, because that's the thing like we always were very, you know, flexible with our goals, like when you are flexible with your goal, how can you actually then achieve it? So 11 go to bed. Do you need to do anything or talk to anyone about this to make sure that you are being held accountable and that you actually follow through?

Catherine Lewis 29:56

I've got beautiful husband because he won't be here sometimes. Yes, it'll be You know, come in be quite left, because I'm a light sleeper, but you can watch Telly and stuff. But just on that note, I will be telling my friends like everybody around me, if you are going to contact me mccollins can be offended, which means that I am on a bed at 11.

Martina Fink 30:15

Yes, nobody call you or text you later.

Catherine Lewis 30:18

No, no customers nobody.

Martina Fink 30:21

Beautiful, beautiful. Does that feel like a good boundary for you?

Catherine Lewis 30:25

Yeah.

Martina Fink 30:27

Amazing. Well done. So interesting how I think we got to the root cause of why you're not sticking to your habits. It's because you're not creating the space to actually do that.

Catherine Lewis 30:44

Like, it's like a puppy is that if you'd like medical free from a young age is always when you're free?

Martina Fink 30:49

Yeah.

Catherine Lewis 30:50

So I need to learn for a puppy.

Martina Fink 30:54

Yes, and you have a dog. So you know, you know how that works.

Catherine Lewis 30:57

I give him both days. So I need to do.

Martina Fink 30:59

Exactly. And it's so hard because habits are so their habits. So we're used to them and changing them are so difficult. Sometimes, I don't want to say it's difficult because it just really takes dedication into decision. But it takes a certain amount of days or you know, time to stick to it. There are studies that say 21 days, there's studies that say 60 days. So whatever works for you, I can't really say what how it really is. But I know that from doing something once or twice, it's not going to stick. But you really need to understand why it hasn't worked. And for you understanding that it is because you're not you're too flexible with everyone else and with yourself. And with your own schedule like that is going to change everything because now you are aware of what the reason is why it hasn't worked in the past.

Catherine Lewis 31:52

And it's just stick into that. And being firm, with myself even when it goes back to seeing people and I never normally like Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, new work day. Yes, put a patch up with anybody. On those days.

Martina Fink 32:08

Exactly how I do it to me works really well.

Catherine Lewis 32:11

Just because I can't split this up into six people.

Martina Fink 32:15

Yeah, you totally can't. Beautiful, I'm really excited for you to set up these boundaries and your calendar and your reminders and talk to the people around you so that they know. And please also ask them to lovingly hold you accountable. I'm doing that also with my friends. When I want to start something new, it's really helpful to have them call you out when you're not sticking to your boundaries and and get their support if needed. Beautiful. Thank you so much for going there with me and for being so vulnerable and honest and you know, open to exploring this together. If anyone wants to connect with you, what are ways for people to find you.

Catherine Lewis 32:58

So I have a personal and a business. So different things for everybody. Well, being inside is at Catherine's Barbie do. And personal side is particularly when you have Facebook and Instagram.

Martina Fink 33:13

Beautiful. Anything else?

Catherine Lewis 33:15

No, just come say hi, if you want to if you're struggling as well, I can hold you accountable.

Martina Fink 33:21

Oh, yes, I remember you joined one of the workshops earlier this year and you really loved the account. So if anybody needs accountability, with boundaries in the schedule, going to bed at a certain time, reach out to calf and connect with her so that you guys can keep each other accountable. I love that.

Catherine Lewis 33:42

It was good.

Martina Fink 33:43

Yes, yes. glow girl community. Beautiful. Thank you so much. And I loved having you on here.

Catherine Lewis 33:49

Thank you for being and having me on.

Martina Fink 33:53

Yes. So glad to have you my community. I am so grateful for Catherine, that she has been in my online community of wonderful women from around the world and they've been able to support her through the session for better boundaries with herself. If you are someone who is struggling with overwhelm, control stress, low self worth, and you're constantly over giving to everyone else and find yourself depleted just like Katherine then head to the link in the show notes to grab our free self care guide for perfectionists or join us and perfectionist a rehab which is a 90 day healing journey out of overwhelm into a fulfilled and glowing life where you have a super beautiful work life balance. To learn more about perfectionist rehab, you can go to martinafink.com/rehab if you enjoyed this episode and it has inspired you to take at least one step forward in your very own glow life. It would mean so much to me if you left us a review on iTunes. Follow the glow Live podcast on iTunes and Spotify and for everything that we mentioned in today's episode, you can go check out the show notes at martinafink.com/podcast/131. If there's anybody in your life that you love that needs to hear this episode and has struggles with boundaries, please forward it to them right now. I would love to connect with you on social media you can find me at Martina glows on Instagram and Facebook. Thank you for being here today and for really caring for yourself so deeply that you've taken the time to listen to this podcast episode. What you do for yourself is going to impact every single soul that you touch in your life. You deserve to feel glowing and confident. Beautiful

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