Today, I want to talk about one of my clients who is engaged and learned a really hard lesson this week. She had a painful conversation with her fiancé and spent the entire last weekend crying.
Her fiancé told her that she wasn't making their relationship a priority. He didn't feel like he was actually important to her.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
BOOM. I don't know about you, but I really don't want my partner to hold the mirror up for me and tell me this.
This. F*ing. Hurts.
It hurts to hear this. But what hurts even more is to acknowledge that what he said was actually true.
She admitted that she wasn't making him a priority.
She admitted that she had a something at work to finish and was making that a priority.
She admitted that she had a call with co-workers and that that was a priority over him.
Work was more important to her than her romantic relationship with her soon-to-be husband. And admitting this is hard! So I am really proud of my glow girl, because awareness is always the first step to any change (this is also the first step of the Glow Life Method that I teach in Perfectionist Rehab!)
She is for sure not the only one
I know that my client's experience is not an exception. Most of my clients come to me with the mindset that work is the most important thing in life. And don't get me wrong, it is important, especially that you enjoy it (and it doesn't burn you out).
But if you're struggling with feeling overwhelmed, are easily irritable in your relationships, and barely have a minute for yourself, it is most likely the case for you, too, that you prioritize work over everything else - including over yourself.
Is all that matters really work?
You know, I have been there, too, where all that mattered to me was my career, my success, my promotion, how others viewed me. And even the fact that it said "Store Manager" on my business card...
Realizations like these can be extremely painful. However, it's really just God/the universe throwing a brick in your face, to remind you to not mess up what should be your no. 1 priority. Prioritizing yourself and those you love the most. We only have this one life.
If I asked you what the no. 1 priority in your life was, what would you say? (And not about what you think it is, but actually how you spend your time and energy!)
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