While I’m sitting at the pool in the middle of the jungle in Bali, I had to think of something that I shared with my clients in our workshop last month: Did you know that 92% of New Year's goals fail by January 15th? That was just last week. This means that most people have already thrown their New Year’s intentions over board. If that’s you, here’s how to readjust your goals to make sure you can create your dreamy glow life this year.
The Transtheoretical Model of Change (or 5 Stages of Change) is a model in psychology that helps you identify whether or not you're ready for a change in your life. Just wanting something doesn’t necessarily mean somebody is actually ready to take the action necessary for the change to unfold in their life. In this blog post, I'm explaining the five stages of change, hoping that it will help you identify where you’re at with the change you’ve been dreaming about.
The bible says: "As long as the earth endures, seedtime and harvest [...] will never cease." [Genesis 8:22] Here's why this is so important: In order to be able to harvest, you have to plant the seed first. If you keep your seed in your thoughts, locked up in a safe space, and never put it into soil, you can wait forever to harvest.
As someone who loves control, is perfectionist in the details, and appreciates a good plan, it can sometimes be challenging when things don't fall into place the way I wanted. Many of us have visions and dreams, things we want to achieve, do, accomplish, have, become. And while it is great to have the dreams, there are a few things that we need to take into consideration before we can go all in on them.
I have caught myself thinking "I'm so behind with everything" these past few days. My apartment needs a clean up, I need to wash my tights for work, and paper work letters are piling up on my desk. It may feel overwhelming to have an endless to do list (whether on your phone, on a piece of paper, or even just in your head) that makes you feel like you’re not doing enough and you’re being inefficient.
What exactly does lack of discipline look like? You set your alarm 30 minutes earlier to meditate for three days, then stop. You workout three times a week for a few weeks, then stop. You have everything ready to read a few pages before sleep, then stop after a week. You may be wondering: Why is this so hard?
What if you didn’t have to detox so heavily and radically, because your lifestyle is already healthy overall? What if you had a healthy balance between allowing yourself to be human and eating a chocolate bar here and there, spending some conscious time on IG, and Netflix-ing with intention and moderation, without blaming yourself? What if you loved yourself so much that you stayed away from coffee, because you know it gives you headaches when you don't have it, because the body is addicted?
Are you feeling constricted by your social anxiety and ready to break free? Being in a group of people isn't for everyone. In fact, whenever I can, I avoid meeting new people, because I am an introvert and love my peace and quiet (can you feel the #boundaries lol). Small talk is not just something that I don't enjoy, it makes me deeply uncomfortable when people ask me who I am and what I do. Like I just want to hide in the bathroom for as long as I can!
Wow, after already being a month into this new year, maybe work has (already) taken up most of your time and energy, and you’re slowly starting to feel stressed again. Maybe you’re also questioning your goals and intentions you have set for this year, because you realized they may have been too big, too irrelevant (because you could literally replace it with any other goal and feel equally uninspired), or too unspecific.
"I can't even imagine that I'll ever feel good enough in my life..." Most likely, you've struggled with not feeing good enough for 25+ years, so I get that it's hard to imagine a different reality for yourself this year. Imagine this: You're looking in the mirror and are loving the reflection you're seeing. You see a kind, beautiful, and confident woman that has a special spark in her eyes.
Let's face it: perfectionism is keeping you stuck in so many ways. And it probably has been for years, if not decades. It makes you work extra hours every day, because you just can't finish that project without it being 100% perfect. It makes you spend every free minute taking care of your friend's needs, your parents' desires, and everyone else who may need your help. You feel exhausted and tired, because you can't switch of your mind at night and often don't wakeup well-rested.
Perfectionists, listen up! I know you may not be fully happy with how 2021 went (I still feel it myself...), and maybe in January of 2021, you had the perfect plan for how you're going to glow up your life that year... Then life happened and your expertise, time, and energy was required at your job, and you couldn't help but lean in and (over)deliver, making sure everyone was happy with your results at work.
Life coaching can be a pivotal experience in helping some people focus their energy and shape their life towards their goals. Some life coaches will focus on a specific area of expertise, such as career development or improvement in your personal relationships, but all of them share a few common traits: goal-setting, accountability and looking to the future.
It is no secret that the holiday season can be challenging for many reasons – but one thing that tends to seep into everyone’s holiday season is the busyness. It seems there is always somewhere to go, something you need to buy, something you need to cook, somewhere you need to travel to, the projects you need to finish at work before the end of the year - the list goes on and it can get a bit overwhelming!
This is what most people get wrong about vision boards: they think just by creating a beautiful collage, the things they dream of are going to fall into place. It doesn’t matter if you have a career goal, want to buy a house, start your own dream business, travel the world, be in a relationship, feel stress free with no to do list, have meaningful friendships, or be in your best and healthiest shape. Maybe you watched the movie „The Secret“ and remember how a guy manifests an elephant into the room. Unfortunately, that’s not exactly how visions and manifestation works.
Maybe you’re feeling a little frustrated, sad, or even angry with yourself that you haven’t been able to achieve some of the goals you had set for yourself in your New Year’s resolutions in January. And there can be a variety reasons why (have you had chance to read this yet?). And while many people may be really excited about the year coming to an end (because they may believe that the new year will magically resolve all the issues 2021 brought us…) and setting new goals for the new year, I would like to invite you to fully honor yourself if you’re not at all feeling excited about December 31 approaching.
