"I can't even imagine that I'll ever feel good enough in my life..." Most likely, you've struggled with not feeing good enough for 25+ years, so I get that it's hard to imagine a different reality for yourself this year. Imagine this: You're looking in the mirror and are loving the reflection you're seeing. You see a kind, beautiful, and confident woman that has a special spark in her eyes.
Maybe you’re feeling a little frustrated, sad, or even angry with yourself that you haven’t been able to achieve some of the goals you had set for yourself in your New Year’s resolutions in January. And there can be a variety reasons why (have you had chance to read this yet?). And while many people may be really excited about the year coming to an end (because they may believe that the new year will magically resolve all the issues 2021 brought us…) and setting new goals for the new year, I would like to invite you to fully honor yourself if you’re not at all feeling excited about December 31 approaching.
It is not a crime to be a good girl.
In fact, it’s a gift.
You love.
You give.
You care.
You take on.
You keep going.
You believe.
You hope.
You support.
You don’t give up.
You have an open heart, even when you get hurt.
You always choose love.
These are qualities not everyone has, and you should be proud of them.
Emotions are real and it is healthy to feel them. Pushing your emotions away or avoiding your feelings will turn you either into a numb robot or put you on an emotional rollercoaster.
The secret: it is not your job to control them.
Especially in times like now, that don't seem to ever end and get better, many of us are struggling with the unexpected and daily changing situations worldwide - me included. So I've put together 3 tips that I use all the time help me navigate emotions in a healthy way.
Is the majority of your food vibrant? Green? Red? Yellow? Purple? As in spinach, peppers, carrots, strawberries, and pineapple.
Or is it brown, beige, and white...? As in bread, cake, pasta, sandwiches, and processed snacks?
Be mindful of what you put in your body, because it directly impacts your body, your soul, and your emotions. Think about it: what you eat, goes into your stomach, gets digested and becomes your blood, your cells, and other bodily tissue.
Most people think that health is a very complicated topic and we need all kinds of lab tests and doctors visits to find out if we are healthy or not. While lab tests are great, there are some super simple indicators to tell how healthy your body is - without having to go to the doctor (unless you experience severe health issues, then please consult your doctor).
This photo is from NYC in October of 2019, just a few days before I moved out of the place I had called home and worked in for 4 years, the place I thought was my foundation. I had hope about life again, but it was still difficult. I knew life wasn’t punishing me, but it was still kinda hard to trust. I didn’t know how it would feel to live alone again after so many year. Not that I have a problem with being alone at all. I love my time alone.
