Ever wonder why you're not feeling good enough? Why you're just not really confident? Here are 4 common reasons:
1 - You experienced a trauma or abuse in the past
If you have experienced any form of physical, mental, emotional, or sexual trauma or abuse, no matter how big or small, and you haven't fully healed from it yet, chances are that your sacral chakra is blocked. This is your second energy center, where your self-worth lies. This is also the chakra that governs our creative energy. When you view life as something you are constantly creating, and that center is wounded, the experiences you are creating may be manifesting from that wound. Imagine how much different your life may look if you healed and unblocked that chakra.
2 - You're living from the outside in
Something in the outside has to happen for you to feel worthy, e.g. someone has to tell you that you're great, that you did a good job, or that you matter. You don't own your self-worth, but think that someone else knows better what you're worth than you. Usually, this is a behavior that's rooted in past trauma...When other people hurt us, we may begin to view other people's validation as the cure for that wound, when in reality, what we need is our own validation.
3 - You're comparing yourself to others
You're constantly comparing yourself to others and how they are better, skinnier, happier, luckier, wealthier, etc. than you. Especially in the day and age of social media, it requires discipline and strong boundaries (e.g. unfollow, limit your time) to not get lost in profiles that are just causing you to feel miserable. Usually, this is a behavior that's rooted in past trauma...The good news? We rarely see ourselves as the amazing creatures that we are. Ever heard the phrase, "You're your own worst critic?" You're comparing yourself, which you judge harshly, against the highlight reels of people that you don't know behind closed doors. Chances are, they are comparing themselves to someone else and feeling inadequate, too. The only person you should compare yourself to is the YOU from yesterday.
4 - You're a people pleaser who always puts everyone else first
You have this deep belief that everyone else matters more than you. You want to make sure everyone else is happy, even if it's at the expense of your own wellbeing. You're basically craving validation from others that would prove that you're good enough. However, usually, this is a behavior that's rooted in past trauma...This quote (sometimes falsely attributed to the Buddha), can help you gain some perspective here: “You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.” No matter who said it, it's the truth!
Can you see where this is going...? Imagine trying to grow a healthy and thriving plant from sick and diseased roots. The parts we can see might look ok, for awhile, but eventually, what we can't see, what lies below the surface, will begin to make the rest of the plant sick. We can only truly feel worthy when we're willing to look at what hurt us in the first place, and heal that wound. It works. And it's worth it.
Do you recognize any of these causes in you life? If you do, my wish for you is that you allow yourself to heal. And maybe there's something here that can help you.
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